This is my autobiography, written originally as a book especially for my grandchildren. I realised that they have known me during their lifetimes, but did not know about my life before they were born. Hence the title 'Grandpa's story', and I hope you may find it interesting too.
Ebenezer
I was born on April 6th 1942, in the middle of the
Second World War, and was named Michael
Raymond Ebenezer Prior. I did not know I was
called Ebenezer until I was 8 years old, and
when I found out I burst into tears because I
thought I was named after Ebenezer Scrooge!
But my grandfather explained to me that Ebenezer was a family name, and that
it was a Hebrew name from the Bible, meaning "Up till now the Lord God has
helped us". I'm really pleased now to have a special name with a good
meaning.
I was brought up in Yorkshire. My father was a wool merchant in the family
business in Bradford, and my mother stayed at home to look after the family -
me and my older sister Rosemarie.
Daddy was not allowed to be a soldier
because he had a bad ear infection and was partially deaf, so he did duties at
night in Bradford as an ARP warden instead. (ARP means Air Raid Precaution,
so he had to look out at night for enemy bombers).
The wool merchant business was called
Ebenezer Prior Ltd, and had branches in
Bradford, Chichester, Taunton and Wellington
in Somerset. It was named after my greatgrandfather who ran the business in Chichester
(although it was founded by his father John
Woods Prior, probably in about 1840).
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My grest-grandfther: Ebenezer Prior when mayor of Chichester |
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I was
very proud to be his great-grandson (though he
died before I was born) because he was kind to
his workers and did a lot for them. He was chief
magistrate of Chichester, and also Mayor of
Chichester in 1895, and this photo is of him in
his mayoral robes. Like his own parents and grandparents he was a Christian: he believed in God,
and his reason to make life as good as possible for his workers and for the
citizens of Chichester was because it was one way in which he could serve
God. Nowadays we take lavatories and sewers for granted, but before they
existed lots of people died from dreadful diseases like cholera. Great
Grandfather Ebenezer led a group on the Chichester Council which made the
city install drains and sewers throughout the town, against great opposition
because of the cost, and for the first time, Chichester became a healthy place to
live. Wendy and I went to Chichester a few years ago and saw a display cabinet
in the museum all about Ebenezer Prior Ltd. Obviously the people of Chichester
must be as proud of Ebenezer Prior as we are, though the company has long
since closed down.
I have written in much more detail about Ebenezer Prior in my blog entry of January 31 2020, entitled 'A remarkable man'.
see
http://mpriorblog.blogspot.com/2020/01/
Primary School
When I was 4 years
old I started at Cottingley Primary
School, near Bingley. We lived near
Cottingley Woods, where Rosemarie
and I often used to go and play. The
only thing Cottingley is famous for is
the 'Cottingley Fairies'.
Our headmaster told us about two little girls who photographed fairies in
Cottingley Woods in 1915, and their photos became world-famous. It was only
when they were over 80 years old that they admitted that their photos had been a
hoax. Up till then, many people believed the photos were of real fairies.
The great snow
When I was 5, the snow came. 1947 was one of the
worst ever years for snow.
I don't think we shall ever
have snow like that again. But because I was small, I
didn't know that it was unusual. I remember walking
to school along a path where the snow on each side
was higher than the top of my head!
My grandpa
My grandpa was called Ebenezer, though
everyone who knew him well just called him
Eb.
Granny was from Scotland and was
from the Kennedy clan. They lived in Burley-in-Wharfedale which was only about 10
miles away, so we saw them regularly, and
always saw them on Sundays because they
went to the same chapel as us.
It was called a 'Brethren Assembly' and was
founded by grandpa. Sundays were very
quiet in those days, because all the shops
were shut and there was no traffic apart
from buses and cyclists. I loved the journey
to chapel on the electric trolley bus.
Grandpa ran the branch of our business in
Bradford, and was well-known for his
absolute honesty as a businessman. All of
his suppliers and customers knew that they
could trust him completely.
Grammar School
When I was 8 I
started at Bradford Grammar School -
which my father had also been to
when he was a boy.
My mother was
very keen for me to do well, and had
given me exercises to do every
Saturday morning to help me to pass
the entrance exam. She herself had
always been a very tidy worker, as is
shown by a picture from her maths
exercise book.
I spent the next ten
years there. Whilst I was there I joined
the school choir, the cadet force (basic
training and then Navy cadets) ....
and
the Drama Club, where I was
backstage lighting manager.
When I reached the 6th form (year 12)
I was in charge of the school Film
Society and made a film of our school
sports day using an old gunsight
camera which we bought from a war
surplus shop and rebuilt. Originally it
had been on a Spitfire fighter plane.
The cameraman from the local
newspaper had been a spitfire pilot
and recognised the camera straight
away. He took this photo,
which appeared in the newspaper.
Whilst in the school cadet
force I was introduced to
Ordnance Survey maps for
the first time, and I took to
them straight away. To me,
reading a map seemed like
cracking a secret code, and
since then I have built up a
large collection of ordnance
survey maps, including the
first one I ever bought. This
bit of it shows where my
school was, in the grounds
of Clock House - marked as
'Clock Ho' on the map.
On
the other side of the road is
Manningham Park Lake,
where one winter we dared
each other to jump on the
ice to see who would go
through it first and get
soaked - until the
headmaster came and
stopped us! Very naughty!
Home, and away.
My father (Jack) married my mother Gertrud (who came from Germany) the
week before the Second World War started. Mummy must have had a really
hard time because the war meant she could not contact her family for the next
6 years, and as she was living in England, some people thought of her as the
enemy. But she coped, and encouraged me always to do my best.
Germany
After the war, my parents wanted us all to go to Germany to meet my
grandparents over there for the first time. We went, by train and ship, in 1950,
because we didn’t yet own a car. Most people didn't have a car in those days,
and the ones who did couldn't use them much because there was a shortage
of petrol. The sea journey from Hull to Rotterdam was very rough. When we
arrived at Rotterdam it was still in ruins after the war - the first time I had ever
seen a ruined city. I was 8 years old.
My mother's home town, Wuppertal, was also full of ruined buildings which had
been bombed during the war, but fortunately my grandparents' apartment was
still standing. Because so many people had lost their homes, my grandparents
had to share their flat with a homeless family. My grandparents - Opa and Oma -
couldn't speak English, and Rosemarie and I couldn't speak German, but it
didn't matter: we got on wonderfully, jabbering to each other in our own
languages and laughing a lot.
was taken to Germany every two years after that, until I left home, and I learnt
to speak German fluently. I can't any more because I haven't spoken German
for many years now.
A great railway memory to
me of Wuppertal, was its
'Schwebebahn'. The name
means 'swaying railway' and
it was (and still is, to this
day) a monorail train system
which travels through
Wuppertal above the river -
and it does sway when it
goes round corners!
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Schwebebahn - Wuppertal
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Encounter with lions - Germany 1954
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Rosemarie
Rosemarie was born two years before me. I
always wanted to do what she could do, so
when she learnt to play the piano, so did I.
When she learnt to swim, so did I.
Rosemarie wanted to be a nurse, but she
was very ill when she was due to go to
nurse's training college, so she never had
her wish. She became a secretary and
worked in Barclays bank, then as a
headmaster's secretary in a grammar school,
and later as a secretary for four surgeons in
Airedale District Hospital. She never got
married, she always lived with my parents, in
Cottingley then in Ilkley, and finally died
unexpectedly when she was still only 59, a
few months after I married granny Wendy.
Hobbies
Trains
I expect you all know my love
of steam trains. Where did
that come from? Well, my
father Jack Prior loved steam
trains too, and he was an
artist who loved painting
cloudscapes. Steam trains
made clouds of smoke and
steam, so he sometimes
painted pictures of them. One of his railway pictures was bought by a very famous
author called J B Priestley, and a black and white copy of it was printed in the
newspaper.
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Forster Square Station, Bradford by EJW Prior
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When I was very little, daddy gave me a book
called 'Narrow Gauge Railways of Britain'. I took it
to school to read to my teacher when I was
learning to read. I was 5 years old. Another boy
interrupted me, and was told off by Mrs Boyes, my
teacher. "Don't interrupt, Geoffrey! Michael is
reading from a very difficult book!"
The picture on the front of the book was of a train
on the Lynton and Barnstaple Railway, which had
closed down many years earlier. Just recently it
has been re-opened and we have travelled on it. A
beautiful modern replica of the locomotive has
been made.
Later, when I was 8, I took an entrance exam for Bradford Grammar School. I
passed! My parents were so pleased that they gave me a toy electric train set as
a reward. The locomotive was called 'Duchess of Atholl'.
Over the next few years
my train layout got bigger and bigger. I still love steam trains, and I like to travel
on steam railways when I get the chance.
Music
As a child I sang soprano in our school choir and was sometimes a soloist. In the
choir I sang at Bradford Cathedral at my headmaster's wedding, and also in St
George's Hall (Bradford's Concert Hall). I learned piano and music theory up to
grade 5. I learned the violin for a short while and played 2nd violin in the school
orchestra. Later, I taught myself to play the guitar. I used my knowledge of piano
and guitar to accompany singing at church and at our teenagers' bible class. I
don't play music any more, but love to use music as parts of soundtracks for my
videos.
Art
Although my father was a skilled watercolour artist, I tried but failed to be good at
art. The best I could do was to copy cartoons drawn by other people, and I enjoyed
doing this a lot. I still have a copies of Hoffnung cartoons which I made when I was a
teenager.
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'You and your hiccups!'
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Photography and videos
As a teenager I became interested in photography.
I sold my big model railway set in order to buy a
slide projector and screen.
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Aldis slide projector
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Voigtlander Vito B 35mm camera
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I bought a Voigtlander
camera, and in later years bought all the
equipment for developing and printing black and
white photographs. (When I went to Uganda I took
all this equipment with me and taught my African
students how to develop and print photos. I lost all
these items when we had to leave Uganda in a
hurry: that story comes later…..)
After I married Wendy, she encouraged me to get
a video camera, and I have enjoyed making videos
ever since. I have a complete record of the lives of
all our grandchildren since they were born, and lots
of other videos too.
Computer
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Commodore PET computer
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Most youngsters today have computers or tablets
or smartphones. I was in at the beginning, when
computers were just starting to appear. I taught
myself how to use computers and how to write
simple programs for them when they first became
available in schools, and one of my jobs was to
teach Information Technology to schoolchildren. At
home, my computer has been very useful for my
hobbies of photography and video editing
Crusaders
All the way through childhood from the age of 9, I
was a member of Crusaders, a Christian organization
now called Urban Saints. My dad was one of the
leaders of Bradford Crusaders. After I had been 10
times to Crusaders I was awarded a Crusader badge,
and after 50 times I was given a bible which I was encouraged to read every
day, with some 'Scripture Union' notes to help me understand what I was
reading. What I was taught by my parents and by Crusaders helped me a lot,
and I decided when I was eleven that I wanted to be a Christian like my
parents and grandparents, and of course my great-grandparents. I am so
thankful I did this. I gave my life to Jesus, whom I believe to be alive today,
and started to read a bit of the Bible every day to find out more about him.
(see appendix). After all these years I still read the bible every day, and have a
time of prayer, which I used to do together with granny Lindsay and now do
with granny Wendy, who is also a Christian. Living for Jesus all makes very
good sense to me. At Bradford Crusaders I remember having stories read to
us about great Christians of the past, and I remember especially the stories
of William Wilberforce and Lord Shaftesbury (see appendix) Some people as
they grow up simply want to enjoy life, and to have a good job, a good home
and a nice family. But these men, because they were Christians, wanted
more than that. Like my great-grandfather Ebenezer - in Chichester, (see
appendix) - their main aim was to serve God by making life better for other
people.
When I was in my mid-teens, school gave us a lot of hard work. We had to
go to school on Saturday mornings, and had homework every night including
Saturday. I remember an older boy at Crusaders, who also went to my
school, saying that because he was a Christian he had decided never to do
schoolwork on a Sunday, so that he could rest, go to church and go to
Crusaders on Sunday. It was his way of trying to obey the fourth of the Ten
Commandments - "Remember the Sabbath day to keep it holy". I decided to
do the same and always got my homework finished by Saturday night. Ever
since, I have kept Sunday special whenever possible, for God and for rest.
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I stayed with Crusaders for many years, becoming a leader when I grew up, first
in Bristol and later in Surbiton. The most fun times were Crusader camps, and I
used to help run camps during the school holidays.
The picture is of Surbiton
Crusaders Whit Camp which I was in charge of, in 1968 when I was 26.
Hostelling and climbing
Going back to my schooldays: the trouble with my closest friends
Peter and Stuart was that they both loved cricket. I didn't. As I grew
older I began to enjoy hiking, climbing and youth-hostelling more and
more. I would hitch-hike up to the Lake District with other good
friends, John Tough and David Williams, and climb mountains. My
favourite Youth hostel was Black Sail Hut, high in the Lake District
hills.
I loved climbing mountains and have climbed up Hellvellyn via
Striding Edge, Scafell and Ben Nevis (twice).
I have also climbed
Mount Olympus in Greece, Piz Morteratsch in Switzerland and
Gahinga on the Uganda/Rwanda border. Gahinga was exciting. It
was over 10,000 feet high and had to be approached by a long trek
through a forest inhabited by mountain gorillas
I wrote in a blog entry in February 2020 about my climb up Mount Olympus. See
https://mpriorblog.blogspot.com/2020/02/
Jordan
In 1960, when I was 18, I was a winner in a
competition, and was invited with 48 other
young men to go to Jordan as guests of King
Hussein. This was very exciting and interesting.
We spent a few weeks in an Army Camp on the
Mount of Olives, just outside Jerusalem, with 48
Arab young men, and were looked after by the
Jordanian Army.
We visited many places,
including Petra, the Dead Sea, and the Red Sea
at Aqaba.
For a short while we got lost in the
desert, and it was reported in The Times: "48
British youths lost in Jordanian desert" !
University, followed by teaching.
I was the first
person in the Prior family to go to university, and studied
Economics, Accountancy and Commercial Law at
Leeds University.
I thought these subjects would be
helpful afterwards when I was going to work for
Ebenezer Prior Ltd. But things didn't turn out that way.
At school a form-mate had said to me "Getting a job will
be easy for you. You were born with a silver spoon in
your mouth."
Because of this, I wanted to prove to myself that I could get a job without walking
straight into the family business, so I thought I would have a go at teaching, and
got a job at Bristol Grammar School for a year. I liked it so much that I decided to
carry on teaching and not join the family business.
Some years later, my father decided to close the
business down, and he then spent his time on
what he liked best, painting and selling
watercolour pictures. He became very well-known
as a Yorkshire Artist, and was encouraged by my
mother who loved his paintings. This is one of
them.
My next job was as a teacher at Surbiton Grammar School, a boys' school in
south-west London. During that time I taught Economics, but also ran the Duke
of Edinburgh's Award Scheme. Each year we got about 30 boys through the
Bronze Award, about 12 through Silver, and half a dozen through the Gold Award.
I went twice to Buckingham Palace to be with the boys who received their Gold
Awards from the Duke. I enjoyed best organising the expedition section of the
scheme, where the Gold Award candidates had to trek for three days and nights
through rough country without contacting civilization, covering 50 miles. We
usually went to the Lake District or to the Yorkshire Dales for this.
Church…. Lindsay….. Marriage
In all the places I went to, I always joined a church. Church is a place where I can
join with other Christians in worshipping God. It's a bit like joining a club, with the
difference that it includes people of every age and every sort of person too. I can
make friends with other people whom I meet at church. They help me when I
need it, and I help them when they need help. We all have the common aim of
trying to live lives which are pleasing to God. In the church near Surbiton I met
Lindsay Sims, whom eventually I married, in 1966.
We had great fun when we
were going out together. I took her rowing on the river Thames once, and
discovered that she didn't know how to row! A big motorboat was chugging
towards us and Lindsay was taking our little boat round in circles. So she simply
jumped into the river (which wasn’t very deep) and pushed our boat out of the
way.
Lindsay had been brought up in Northern Rhodesia (now
called Zambia), and this caused us to think about going out
to Africa to teach. A great sadness was that we had no
children, and were told by a doctor that Lindsay would
never be able to have children. We prayed a lot about what
to do next, and decided that we should go to Uganda,
where a job was available for me. But then came a miracle!
In 1970 Janine was born whilst we were in Uganda, so it
proved the doctor had been wrong! Janine spent her first 2
½ years in Uganda and was a delight to us both
Uganda
When we went to Uganda we made friends
with Roger and Margaret Stevens, who
helped us to settle in. We have been friends
with them ever since. We lived in a brand new bungalow in Kabale, Uganda, and had
two full-time servants, which was very nice.
(This picture was painted for me by one of my pupils, Elly Tumwine. Subsequently he became the Commander of the National Resistance Army which overthrew the government of Idi Amin in a coup and installed Yoweri Museveni as President. (As I write this in 2023, Museveni is still the President!) Unfortunately Tumwine turned out to be a very cruel man)
I worked in a boarding school named Kigezi
High School, which had 600 pupils. On
Sunday evenings we would go to a service
at the cathedral, which was next door to the
school. Instead of church bells it had three
huge African drums, which the year 13
pupils taught me to play, to call people to
the service. Every day started with school
assembly. The pupils did not have to come
to this, but every weekday about 400 of
them did come, because they loved singing
the hymns (very loudly!). The pupils were
not divided into age groups, because they
joined the school when their parents could
afford to pay the school fees, not when
they reached a particular age. So in
year 7 the pupils' ages ranged from 11
to 16. In year 13, some of students
were 23 years old. One of them, named
Jason Turimumahoro, was very friendly
and told me about the school Christian
Union which he was running.
(Jason is
the one in the middle of the photo,
between the two girls). I joined in and
helped him to run it after that. It was a
club for those who were serious about
their Christian faith. Being a Christian is
tough wherever you are, because often
the other pupils think you are stupid to
be a Christian, so to have a time each
week when they could share their life
with others was a real help to them.
Whilst we were in Uganda a soldier
called Idi Amin threw out the
government and made himself
President of Uganda.
Shortly afterwards
he came to visit our school and I had to
shake hands with him. But he turned
out to be a very wicked man.
When the headmaster was away on
leave for several months I had to take over as headmaster of the school for a while, but I
enjoyed teaching more than I enjoyed
being a headmaster.
Another great moment was when David was born whilst we were on holiday in
England. We were staying with Lindsay's parents at the time, so he was born in
Ipswich. We took him back to Uganda when he was 12 weeks old.
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Turbulence – the Air Pocket
We were flying back to Uganda
in a Boeing 707, and whilst we were in clear air over Sudan we
suddenly flew into turbulence. I think pilots call it ‘clear air turbulence’
which is totally invisible: they can’t see it so they can’t fly round it. The
plane started to judder; I grabbed my armrests and put my arm across Janine to
hold her steady. David, who was just a few weeks old, was asleep in a carrycot
on two spare seats. Suddenly the plane
hit a massive air pocket – a hole in the sky! – and dropped down it like a
stone. The wings flapped, passengers were lifted out of their seats, one
passenger hit the ceiling, baggage was strewn everywhere, the air hostesses got
covered in orange juice and other drinks which they were serving, and David landed two rows further forward,
upside down under his carrycot in the gangway! We were all very shaken up,
including the pilots, and I think most of the passengers thought we were
crashing. The pilot radioed Entebbe airport to
request for a doctor to check David for
injury. When we arrived, a doctor did come on board and said David was ok, but
the doctor was obviously very drunk, so we didn’t trust his judgement. We had him re-checked at Mengo Hospital
in Kampala.
They said he was ok, so we breathed a sigh of relief.
Paddington Bear saves the day.
We went on to Kabale, but life there
became very difficult, because of Idi Amin, who was throwing some people into jail
and killing others. During this time Uganda was invaded by rebels who wanted to
overthrow Amin, and Kabale was cut off from the rest of the country for several
weeks, so that for a while we couldn't escape even if we wanted to. Then
something else terrible happened when Amin decided to throw out all the Asians
living in Uganda. There were, I think, more than 64,000 people whom he threw
out, many of whom eventually came to live in Britain. He then started to threaten
the British people who were in Uganda…..
Lindsay and I didn't want to run away, just because life was difficult, but we were
no longer sure whether being in Uganda was the right place to be. So we prayed:
we said to God that we were willing to stay in Uganda if that was where He
wanted us to serve Him, but if He wanted us to go back to England, would He
please give us a clear message that we should leave. Then we packed two
suitcases, just to be ready in case of need, put them under the bed, and carried
on living our lives in Kabale as normal.
Three days later a great friend of ours named Hugh, who lived 90 miles away
where he was the Chief Medical Officer in the next county, arrived on our
doorstep. As we greeted him and asked why his wife hadn't come with him he
said "I've already got her out of Uganda. I'm leaving in a fortnight and I have come
with a message from the British Government to tell you to leave as soon as
possible." "Why have they sent you with the message?" we asked. "Because the
phone lines are tapped by the Ugandan Secret Police" he said, "and the British
Government doesn't want them to know what we are saying, in case they arrest
British teachers and doctors before they can get out. There is a danger that Amin
may soon decide to make big trouble for British people in Uganda."
So it was that in October 1972, we departed, leaving all our
possessions behind us apart from our two suitcases and a
baby carrier. Instead of putting Janine in the baby carrier we
put Jan's Paddington Bear in it, which turned out to be a
very good idea.
On our journey we had to go through many
army roadblocks, but whenever we were faced with Amin's
soldiers or his secret police, they looked with great interest
at Paddington and asked why we were carrying him! This
led to friendly chats instead of difficult ones.
Many weeks later we were told that another group of Secret Police had found out
that we had left Kabale and were trying to discover where we were. But they
were too late. By then we had left the country, after spending a long time in the
British High Commission in Kampala, telling British officials how they might set
about getting the rest of the British community out of Kabale if they needed to. At
the time, they really thought that might happen, but fortunately it didn't, and our
friends in Kabale remained safe.
We arrived back in England one night, with nowhere to live (because our flat in
Surbiton was rented to someone else) and no job. We stayed with Lindsay's
parents for a while. 24,000 Asians had fled from Uganda to Britain at the same
time as we had left, so I was given a job to help start a school in a refugee camp
for some of the children, and later to help them to get settled in at one of the
local comprehensive schools.
Neston
Then in 1973 I saw an advertisement for
a job in Chippenham, at Hardenhuish
School.
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Hardenuish House, at the centre of Hardenhuish School
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I got the job, and rented a house
for a few months whilst we looked for a
house to buy. I was able to buy our
house in Neston using money from
selling our flat in Surbiton, and have
lived in the same house in Greenhill ever
since. (50 years in 2023). Again, it was important to Lindsay
and myself to find a church, and we
joined a little chapel called 'Neston
Gospel Hall'.
There we made
friends with several people and
especially Christopher and Joan
Poulsom and their family.
Christopher was a farmer and lived
nearby at Overmoor Farm which
was very close to our house, and
the field in front of our house was
part of the farm. It was a dairy farm,
and in later years Lindsay often
worked on the farm for fun, milking
the cows or driving the tractor.
The
children couldn't see their own
grandparents very often as they
lived so far away, but the Poulsoms
were like grandparents to them.
Five years after David was born,
along came Andrew. He can claim
to have been born in a stately home
(!) - Berryfield House in Bradford-on-Avon, which was a maternity
hospital at the time.
Our house cost us such a lot that we had very little spare money, and for a while
we lived with no carpets on the floor and with very old second-hand furniture. We
couldn't afford a new car, but scraped together just enough money to buy a
Simca van, into which we fitted back windows and a back seat for the children.
To keep the costs of holidays down, we went camping, often with our friends
Roger and Margaret Stevens, until one year at Broadhaven it was so wet that we
decided that a caravan would be better than a tent. We all saved up, (including
the children who saved up some of their pocket money), until we were able to
buy a small old caravan.
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The Simca van and our caravan
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We used it a few times, but then Uncle Bill and Aunt
Eunice who lived near Bude, offered to let us use their granny-flat for summer
holidays, and for the next five summers we spent our summer holidays in Bude.
The caravan stayed most of the time in our garden, as a sort of den for the
children.
As you know, our back garden is quite big, and for several years I grew lots of
vegetables in the back garden. But as time went on I had too much other work to
do, so I gave up the gardening. Now granny Wendy has started to grow
vegetables again in the back garden, with great success.
The Bible Class
There wasn't a lot going on for teenagers in Neston, and we
decided, with the help of our friend Barbara Dimmick, to start a Bible Class for
teenagers in our house on Friday evenings. Children joined at the age of 11, and
usually stayed as part of the Bible Class until they were about 18. We never
needed to do any recruiting: they just brought brothers, sisters and friends along,
and numbers averaged about a dozen or so each week for many years.
We would have an hour of singing,
doing a bible-based quiz, reading a
bit of the Bible and learning about
it; then for an hour afterwards we
would have games - outdoors in the
summer and indoors in the winter.
We would play coastguards and
smugglers on 'the tip' up the road
(it's now a housing estate). We tried
clearing an old farm pond - not
very successfully. We built a model
railway layout on a base which we
put onto the playroom table each
week. The playroom was where
our kitchen is now.
The School Cottage
Tyle Morgrug,
the cottage in South Wales, used to
be the school cottage of
Hardenhuish School where I was a
teacher. It was used mainly for
geography field trips, and I first went there in 1974. It was a pretty
worn-out old place in those days, and the barn was an empty shell,
(not like it is today with a dormitory and dining roon in it). As
time went on I started to take groups of children there who would
otherwise not get a holiday at all. Then I took groups from the school
Christian Union, and after that I took groups of teenagers who were
members of our Teenagers Bible Class. So I found myself going
there at least twice a year for many years.
The time came when Hardenhuish School could no longer afford to keep the
cottage, so it was sold to Chichester Youth Adventure Centre. I went to the
cottage to hand over the keys to a lady called Anne, who turned out to be the
mayor of Chichester at the time. When I told her that my great-grandfather had
also been mayor of Chichester, she was most interested. She told me that her
group were going to improve the cottage, and that when the improvements were
complete she would let us know, and we could visit it again. The result was that
about two years later we were invited to go to the cottage again - and have been
going ever since, nowadays on family visits! Janine now does the booking of
the cottage.
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Near the cottage in 2010
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Lindsay's illnesses
Lindsay led a very active
life, firstly running the Neston pre-school
playgroup, then the Cotswold Services Centre
playgroup, and also helping at the farm. But then
one day, when we were on holiday with her sister
Hilary and family near Cambridge, she became
very ill and I took her to Addenbrookes Hospital
in Cambridge. They discovered that she had a
growth in her tummy which was blocking her
intestine. If she were to stay alive it would have
to be removed. We had to go back home, leaving her in hospital in Cambridge for
her operation and recovery.
Things did not go smoothly, and she nearly died, but eventually she pulled through
and got better. I visited her at weekends, until she was able to leave hospital.
Hilary saw her each day, of course, and our dear friend Margaret Stevens travelled
regularly all the way from Leeds to see her and encourage her.
Lindsay recovered well, and things went back to normal again. But a few years
later, we were on holiday again, at Sidmouth, when she became ill again. It was
the same cancer again, but this time it had taken root in her liver. The hospital in
Cambridge was one of the very few hospitals which could do liver transplants in
those days, so we asked if they might give Lindsay a transplant. They said no,
they would not do a transplant on a cancer patient. It looked as though Lindsay
would die, and as we always did, we prayed about it asking God what to do
next…….
We had a cousin in Leeds, Andrew Sims, who was professor of Psychiatry at St
James Hospital. He had a friend who was a specialist in 'soft tissues' which
included the liver! He arranged for us to have an interview, during which we were
told that a liver transplant would be very risky. She was told to live life as normally
as possible, and when life became too difficult she should come to Leeds again
and they would decide whether to do a transplant. She might die if she had the
transplant, but it was possible that she might live. "Don't come to Leeds too soon",
she was told, "but don't leave it too late either".
About a year and a half later, the moment came when we went to Leeds again,
this time for the transplant. It was a huge operation, and very dangerous, but it
was a success, and it gave Lindsay over four years of extra life. During those
years we visited Yorkshire regularly and stayed with Andrew and Ruth Sims. We
even had a cycling / camping holiday in Yorkshire when I went cycling with Andy
and his friend Steven Miller, whilst Lindsay was the cook. I had made sure that our
holiday was not far from the hospital in Leeds, just in case anything went wrong
for Lindsay.
Like me, Lindsay believed strongly in God, and even when she
was very poorly she was always happy and smiling, and used to
cheer up her visitors. When the time came to die, she was
completely ready, because she knew for certain that she was going
to be with Jesus in heaven.
During the last year of her life, Lindsay had to keep going back into
hospital for short stays, but there was another answer to our
prayers….. In 1991 we were able to celebrate our silver wedding.
And in 1993 Janine and Sean got married, followed a few months
later when David and Frances got married.
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Sean and Janine wedding
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David and Frances wedding
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On both occasions
Lindsay was well enough to be there and enjoy the weddings
(though both times she was back in hospital again a short time
afterwards!)
Alone - apart from the dog!
Jan and Sean went to live in their own home, as
did David and Frances, leaving me and Andy at
home. We had a dog called Amy who, as a
grown-up dog became very fierce with other
people, and especially with other dogs. (She used
to nearly pull me over when she saw another dog
worth attacking!)
Then Andy went off to university
in Cardiff, so I was on my own for a few years.
After having had such a busy household full of
growing children and many visitors, it was strange
and lonely living in an empty house with only Amy as company. I tried to learn to
cook, and I used to invite people to meals to try out my not very great skills on
them, and of course I carried on teaching as though nothing had happened. I don't
suppose my pupils knew anything about the upheavals in my life: a schoolteacher
has to act at all times as though nothing is wrong, and it is rare for schoolchildren
to know much about their teachers' lives
Change of church - twice.
After Lindsay died I was still going to Neston Gospel Hall, but Andrew was going
to St Aldhelm's Church in Corsham. (St Aldhelms youth group had been very
helpful to all the children, and indeed it was where Jan met Sean). After a few
months I thought it wasn’t a good idea for us both to be going to two different
churches, so I switched to St Aldhelms, where I stayed for about a year and a half.
Then Andrew was recommended by someone to give Corsham Baptist Church a
try, which he did, and he continued there for a while. I thought I would stick my
nose in there too, and the first time I did that, I knew instantly that it was the
church where I ought to be. I have been going there ever since, and was their Church Treasurer for 6 ½ years.
Wendy
The whole of our family had known Wendy and
her family for many years, and it was with great
delight that, at the start of 2000 I married Wendy
at Corsham Baptist Church, where she was also a
member.
This meant that Leila and Adrian
became a welcome new part of our family as my
step-children.
Then - trouble! Whilst we were on
honeymoon at the village of Mousehole in
Cornwall, Wendy suddenly became very ill and
had to be rushed to hospital in Penzance. I
wondered whether my new marriage would finish
almost as soon as it had started, because Wendy
nearly died. But she had major surgery and slowly
recovered. Phew!
Granny Wendy is an excellent cook, so
my days of inviting people to try out my
efforts at cooking were over, and people
who come to us are now able to have
lovely meals.
As the years have gone by, we have had
further delights: Andrew and Deborah got
married on the same day as my 60th
birthday, in April 2002.
Over the years our grandchildren have been born - Grace, Eva and Jacob; Isaac
and Lubin; Rosie and Edith; and we take a great interest in their progress as they
grow up. Two more welcome additions to our 'tribe' are Stephen Tucker - with
Leila, and Nicola Hammond - with Adrian. Wendy's side of the family is big:
Wendy is one of 10! So she has brought into my circle lots of uncles, aunts,
cousins, nephews and nieces, and of course her dear mother Joan, who lived in
Radstock.
Then in 2021 Adrian and Nicola got married. They have added Jaxon and Oliver to our tribe of grandchildren.
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Ady and Nicola
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Jaxon |
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Oliver |
We have a busy household with lots of visitors for meals and sometimes garden
parties. We support our big and lively church and its members support us. I thank
God for all our family and friends, and for being the source and inspiration of my
life. -o0o
Appendix 1 -
Becoming and being a Christian.
No-one can make you be a Christian. God himself never forces anyone to be a Christian. But
Christianity is open to all. If you seek God with all your heart, he will welcome you. The Bible
says so:
Jeremiah 29.13
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
Luke 11.9
Jesus said "So I say to you: ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and
the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and
to the one who knocks, the door will be opened."
2 Timothy 3.16
All Scripture (the Bible) is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and
training in righteousness, 17 so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every
good work.
"Christianity is a tremendous personal loyalty to, and friendship with, Christ, which results in
living His life and doing His will in the world."
Weatherhead - Jesus and ourselves. P172
Appendix 2
Ebenezer Prior
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Ebenezer Prior, when mayor of Chichester
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